Modeling Christ for the Next Generation
Why Discipleship Starts at Home
One of the biggest challenges facing families and churches today is the misconception that discipling children is primarily the church’s responsibility. Many parents think, “If I just get my kids to church, the pastors will take care of their spiritual growth.” However, the reality shows that the church’s time with children is limited compared to the hours parents spend with them.
Consider this: if a child never missed a single Sunday from birth until leaving home, they would spend roughly 936 hours in church.
But most families attend far less frequently-on average, about once a month-reducing that time to approximately 234 hours over 18 years. In contrast, parents and family members have thousands of hours daily and weekly to influence and disciple their children. This makes the role of parents and guardians crucial in shaping their children’s faith and character.
Discipleship at home means parents must model Christlike behavior consistently.
The old phrase “Do as I say, not as I do” simply doesn’t work. Children learn far more from what they see than what they hear. If parents want their kids to embody kindness, patience, and forgiveness, those qualities must be evident in their own lives. For example, telling a child to stop yelling while yelling oneself sends a confusing message.
Generational patterns also play a significant role.
Often, the very behaviors that frustrate us about our own parents are the ones we unknowingly repeat. This is why the Bible speaks of generational sin-habits and attitudes passed down through families until someone intentionally breaks the cycle.
Paul’s words in Romans 13:12 remind believers to “discard the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light.”
Spiritual growth is a daily battle against sin, and like a soldier preparing for battle, Christians need to equip themselves with God’s Word and accountability. Bringing struggles into the light by confessing to trusted friends or family diminishes sin’s power.
The good news is that it’s never too late to change.
Apologizing to children for past mistakes and asking for forgiveness can be a powerful step toward healing and transformation. Every day is an opportunity to model Christ, put on the armor of light, and lead the next generation in faith.
The good news is that it’s never too late to change.
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